Warning: The following is going to be vague and weird and maybe you'd be able to relate to it or maybe you'd just want to shut this tab off of your browser. And now:
If it isn't work or entertainment, or health, or monetary concerns, then it's the most basic needs that occupy their minds. Naturally, it would be the most basic need for love.
I am, mind you, surrounded by teenagers (with all their raging hormones, like I said), so do not be surprised if this topic keeps popping up again and again.
Their vocabulary is not limited when it comes to the ways of expressing the type of affection they have for another person; but the amount of value that they attach to these very words differs from person to person, and thus they always end up conveying a different meaning than they want to. Sometimes these words come off as stronger than what you want them to be, and sometimes, because you use the strongest word you could use SO much, you simply don't know what to say when you actually have to express that same level of affection.
For instance, you do NOT love a person you just met, you merely deem them to be tolerable and/or find pleasure in their personality and way of expression.
You do NOT love a person you have decided to go out on dates with, and share a romantic interest in. What you have, is just that--a romantic interest.
The kind of epic stories and music that depict what love is "really" about, set the standards REALLY high for people who've never been in love and I think that's what the first bummer is for young hearts who yearn for such affection. I'm not saying that it's not possible for people to feel such emotion; it must be, else we wouldn't be able to write about them. Such stories and music should not be able to invoke such emotions, either. But they do, so they must be possible, right?
What is love then?
It's when you understand the person completely and know what they're shortcomings are, and know how rude and/or selfish they can get, but you care about them anyway. It's when you've seen them at their weakest and you start to understand why they do the things that they do, and you still want to be their friend, that you start to love them.*
When you can have intelligent conversations and really silly ones, and engage in productive activities and still do random, fun things with each other, when you really start to see what a person is actually like.
Sometimes, that's all that love is. A really strong friendship.
And that's why you can love your mom, love your dad, love your (best) friend(s) and even love your pets. So therefore, I feel, 'love' should only be used when you really want to convey such strong emotions for someone, and not just when you think that you love them, but when really, you just like them or find comfort in their presence. You might even say you love a person simply because they make you feel good about yourself (which is important in any relationship but not enough to state your undying love; for if this is the case, then it will soon wither and die).
What I'm trying to say is, don't rush into something and then be disheartened when it doesn't work out.
Don't have too many high expectations, because the person you are falling in love with, is just human. They will make mistakes, they will make selfish choices.
And most importantly, ensure that YOUR idea of love is what the other person's idea of love also is.
It's no point if what you think is love is merely a romantic interest for the other.
And, as corny as it sounds, do not be expecting to fall in love.
All advice is free, so take the above if you wish. Just remember however, that I have not been as successful in this field as I might hope. (Really, ask my exes! ...Or don't).
Pain is inevitable and, well, it sucks. If you've ever experienced heart-break because of a romantic interest that you thought you were in love with, then
So I am still obviously in love with all these moving visuals.
Until next time, friends.
*You'd still want to travel across the galaxies to find them. (HINT, HINT; NUDGE, NUDGE) You guys at Mission Control CLEARLY do not love me enough to search harder for me.
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